Or who sits where and says what when!
We would heartily recommend you employ a professional toastmaster for your wedding they add an additional “something” to the day whilst ensure that your day runs exceptionally smoothly. However we accept that this is not for everyone so here is our pocket guide to the days procedures.
Ideally the bridal party will be the first to arrive at the hotel following the ceremony, in order that they may be on hand to greet the guests.
The reception “line up” usually takes the following format:
- Bride’s Mother
- Bride’s Father
- Groom’s Mother
- Groom’s Father
- Bridesmaids and the Best Man are also often included.
- The bridal party receives their guests who are offered a welcoming drink.
- A present table is provided for guests who bring gifts with them.
Once all the guests have been received there may be a photographic session. Sometimes this involves just the bridal party, sometimes all the guests are required. When this is concluded and all the guests have had a reception drink, the hotel will liase with the Best Man, Bride and Groom and call the guests to dine. The Bride and Groom are held back and announced formally when all the guests are seated.
Grace may be said prior to the meal.
Cutting The Cake
When coffee is about to be served to the principal guests, the Best Man invites the Bride and Groom to cut the Cake. The Bride takes the knife in her right hand and the Groom clasps the Bride’s hand and the knife with both hands and together they make the initial cut into the bottom tier of the cake. There is no need for any speeches at this point. Hotel staff will now take the cake away to be sliced in order that it may be served with the coffee. The staff will then retire from the room and the speeches may commence.
Toasts and Speeches
The Best Man acting as Toastmaster invites the Bride’s Father (or other nominated guest) to propose the Toast – “The Bride and Groom”.
The Best Man then invites the Groom to respond to the Toast and he concludes by proposing the Toast to “The Bridesmaids”.
The Best Man responds on behalf of the Bridesmaids, continues his speech relating any gentle anecdotes he may have about the Bride and Groom.
He will conclude by reading cards and greetings.
We must emphasise that these procedural notes are for guidance only.
It is your wedding and you may conduct it exactly as you wish.